You’ve read as many “How to Parent” guides as you could get your hands on while waiting for your arrival of your new baby. You felt well-read and well-prepared as you braved the first year or so of parenthood. Now that it’s time to figure out how to get your child out of your bed, and possibly their own room, you’re lost. (more…)
As parents, we innately want to make our children happy. We constantly walk a fine line between enabling and empowering, discipling and disregarding, etc. However, any parent will tell you that all of this easier said than done. Thoughtful and intentional parenting is work, really hard work. It takes another level of connectedness that can barely be explained. Have you ever “felt” the pain of your child? When they hurt, you hurt. You’re elated when they are successful and beyond words when you feel like you’re unable to help them. That’s the level of connectedness that I refer to when I speak of thoughtful parenting.
Temporary Sadness vs. Unhappiness
I’m not talking about my team just lost the game unhappy. I’m referring to the type of unhappiness a child experiences when they feel as if they don’t ever fit in with peers or when they feel like they can never earn good grades regardless of how hard they’ve tried. Watching our child feel lost, empty and downright unhappy, can feel like a punch in the gut. (more…)
September is just two weeks away! Honestly, where did this summer go? The rain just washed it away! Any who – we always hear about “back to school” tips. Usually in the first week of July when the kiddos just got out of those locker-lined halls. Instead of planning barbecues and laying out by the pool, we are bombarded with backpacks, pencils and binders flooding an entire fourth of Target. So, we decided to wait until the appropriate time to talk with you about a lesser discussed subject -“back to high school” tips! Today I am going to be writing about what you can do as a parent to help your child prepare for their first day as a high school freshman.
Help your child get familiar with their new school. They’ve never been here before and it’s probably much larger and more intimidating then their middle school was. Some schools offer an orientation where all of the kids can come in and get familiar with the building as well as practice their locker combinations. However, if your child’s school district does not offer orientation at the end of summer, make sure to find a time where you and your kid can take a tour of the school. It is particularly helpful if you already have their school schedule, that way you can easily help them locate the classes that they will be attending and do a general run-through of their day! If possible, picking up a school map will help if your child gets confused and can’t remember where a class is located.
Help your child prepare for their first day of high school. While many teachers don’t give out a list of supplies until the first day of school, it is best to come prepared on the first day with a folder, notebook, pen and pencil. Trust me, there are going to be a lot of handouts! When your child gets home from school, go through their lists of supplies with them and make a plan to get everything that they need. If you are looking to cut back on costs (who isn’t?), try to scavenge around the house for supplies that you may already have lying around from previous years. You can also plan a supply swap with friends and family. For example, while you might have an extra notebook you don’t need, a friend might have an extra folder that you do need. You can then swap items! If all else fails, the Dollar Store is always a great option!
High school offers a wide variety of clubs, sports and other opportunities. Encourage your child take advantage of these! You can help by taking a look at the school’s website and seeing what kind of extracurricular activities they have to offer. Sit down with your child and weed out the ones that they are not interested in and zero in on the ones that fascinate them. Having your child get involved in something like soccer, drama club, or student council will help them attain a sense of belonging. It will also help them expand on their circle of friends and find where they fit in. Multiple small middle schools often merge into one larger high school so there is a good chance that there are a lot of people your child does not know yet. Participating in activities will help them branch out while also discovering their interests!
Always keep the lines of communication open. Your child is going through change and may be anxious about this new transition in their life. The work load changes from middle school to high school and your child may be under more stress than he/she once was. Your child is also experiencing bodily changes as they are now becoming an adult, which can be a very confusing time. You can help your child get through this by keeping an open dialogue about the struggles that they are going through. Monitor their feelings and let them know that you are listening and that you care. If you notice any warning signs of severe anxiety, lower self-esteem or depression, seek help. Talking with the student guidance counselor is a good place to start.
These next four years are going to be exciting for your child. As parents, you’re going to be able to watch them transform from your precious babies into wonderful adults. Always remember that no one is perfect. Allow them to make mistakes, it helps them grow! Just make sure the mistakes aren’t too big. Happy high schooling!
Remember July? It seems so long ago. Well, something really big happened last month just in time for some great back-to-school news! On July 30th, LeBron James’ I Promise School opened in his hometown of Akron, Ohio to 240 students for the first time ever. For a long time, the school started out as an unattainable dream. When he was younger, LeBron missed 83 days of 4th grade. His mother, Gloria, struggled to find a steady job for her and young LeBron, which denied him the security and stability he needed to receive as a growing child. He told the Los Angeles Times that he never understood the importance of education and how it can help break already existing poverty cycles. James wants the I Promise School to guarantee resources and opportunities for the students that he didn’t have growing up. He hopes that his school will provide the kids of Akron a bright and successful future.
HOW THE I PROMISE SCHOOL WAS STARTED
The staff of the LeBron James Family Foundation had a brainstorming session where James and executive director Michele Campbell discussed how to better involve their foundation in the community in Akron. Campbell suggested that opening a school could work, but James wondered why that wasn’t already happening. Campbell reminded him that the foundation didn’t have enough resources to start that big of a project, however, James told her to start it anyway. James told CNN “We want every kid to walk through this school to be inspired, to come away with something”.
WHAT I PROMISE IS
I Promise is a public school in Akron, Ohio for grades K-12. James chose it to be public rather than a charter or private because he believes that improving the public schools in inner-city Akron will help the city as a whole grow and develop. I Promise has an extended school day that goes from 9 to 5 every day, and includes an extended school year with a summer program. The extended hours ensure that the students are getting the best education they can, while also making sure that they have a safe place to play and learn during the typical “after school hours”.
WHO IS ELIGIBLE TO ATTEND I PROMISE
I Promise School’s first ever students are 240 randomly selected 3rd and 4th graders who are deemed at risk by the Akron board of education. On average, these kids are two reading levels below their peers. With I Promise’s unconventional hours of operation, they are giving this at-risk-youth a chance to advance and succeed with their academics. By 2022, James says that the school will be able to fully educate K-8th graders.
HOW I PROMISE IS GETTING ITS FUNDING
Akron District Treasurer Ryan Pendleton spoke to the Akron Beacon Journal about the funds I Promise is getting. This year, the Akron Public School system, with the LeBron James Family Foundation, is spending $2.9 million of their general fund on I Promise. Come 5 years, it is expected that $8.1 million will be invested from the school district into I Promise. And that’s exactly how Akron sees it. Pendleton suggests that I Promise will be a long-term investment for the city of Akron and its students. The LeBron James Family Foundation will also be meeting the needs for the programs and activities that the school offers to its students.
WHAT I PROMISE OFFERS
The school is STEM (science, technology, engineering, and mathematics) based, and with the partnership of James and the University of Akron, will guarantee all graduating seniors a full ride to the institution (Time Money). That’s huge!!! I don’t think this is getting the attention it deserves. This is free tuition to a public university with lots of opportunities. College is already so expensive as it is, and not everyone is fortunate enough to afford it, but with this guarantee, the I Promise students will be getting a higher education, no ifs, ands, or buts.
The school also provides free healthy breakfasts, lunches, and snacks to its students. James understands that healthy foods are more expensive and not as accessible in low-income areas. The school also offers free bicycles and helmets for all students. When James, was young, he used to ride his bike to get out of the not so safe areas of Akron. He wanted each of his students to have the same protection that he felt with his bike. Counseling services are provided on campus which will help the students learn different coping skills (specifically with trauma), and career services and GED classes for the parents. Principal Brandi Davis says: “We are going to be that groundbreaking school that will be a nationally recognized model for urban and public school excellence, […] We are letting people know that it is about true wraparound support. True family integration, true compassion.”
I Promise seems like it will be a great addition to the city of Akron and will ensure that its students are prepared academically to take on the world. Congratulations, King James. You have taken an unattainable dream and turned it into a life-changing reality. I promise that your school will be everything you’ve dreamed it would be.
Additional Sources on I Promise School:
- USA Today
- Akron Beacon Journal
- LeBron James Family Foundation
- National Public Radio
- SB Nation
- The Kansas City Star