Mother’s Day is just around the corner, so I want to share with all of you a little bit about my mom and our very unique relationship.
I recently read an article by HuffPost about the mother-daughter relationship and how it is impossible for a mother to be a daughter’s best friend because the relationship of a “mom” trumps the relationship of a “best friend”.
It got me thinking because my mom and I always refer to each other as best friends. So are we really insulting our mother-daughter relationship by using the term “best friend” which is less than mother?
The Role of ‘Mom’
Ever since I was born she was my protector and my guardian, as all mothers are meant to be. She then became the one person, when growing up, that I could tell everything to. Because you see – she never judged me or scolded me when I told her what was going on in my life – she was always just so thankful that I was sharing things with her. And that’s how it went for 18 years.
I’d go to her for advice, complain about boys, tell her secrets about my siblings (sorry guys) and tell her my secrets as well. That’s when I thought of her as my mom. A very chill mom.
The Role of ‘Best Friend’
When I became an adult is when she turned to me. She’d come to me for advice, complain about boys, tell me secrets about her family and even tell me secrets about herself. And I became her protector, her guardian and the one person that she could tell everything to. I never judged her or scolded her because I was just so thankful that she could confide in me the same way I always confided in her. That’s when I thought of her as my friend. My best friend.
We were able to become best friends because my mom and I have a deep mutual respect and understanding of one and other. She takes care of me and I take care of her. That’s our secret to having a great friendship – the fact that we treat each other as constant equals.
I don’t think being best friends with your mom makes your mother-daughter bond less than. I believe it makes it stronger.
Because you can’t choose your mom. She is given to you and that is an unconditional love. You can, however, choose your best friend and I choose her every single day.