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  • Advocate for Your Child: 10 Steps to Productive Parent- Teacher Meetings

    It’s right around report card time. If your child’s school has marking periods divided into quarters then you probably just finished wrapping up parent teacher conferences.  If the school goes by trimesters then you’ll be heading off to conferences in the near future.

    Hopefully, you and your child’s teachers are on the same page when it comes to their education.  Unfortunately, there may be times when parent and teacher will disagree. If you’re anything like me, it makes your blood boil when you learn that your child is being dismissed, overlooked, misunderstood or disrespected by a teacher or administrator.  As a parent, educator for the past twenty years and creator of parent education and empowerment workshops, I have a unique vantage point in this arena. I’ve literally been on both sides of the table and I can honestly say being on the parent side gave me an entirely different perspective.

    Let me start by telling you what does not work.  Yelling. I’m laughing as I type this but yelling absolutely does not work.  I’ve sat in meetings with other professionals secretly wishing I could pull the parent aside, give them a big grandmotherly hug and whisper you have a good point but they’re not hearing you because you’re belligerent.  I’ve also had to remind myself as a parent in said meetings of the same. So, how do you tactfully advocate for your child at parent-teacher meetings?

    1. Always remember that teacher and administrators are fellow humans.  

    When I was working within the public school system, I’d be out shopping and run into a family.  You’d think they’d seen a ghost. There’s usually a double take, followed by whispers and perhaps pointing.  I’d usually break the ice by jokingly reminding the child and his/her family that yes, teachers shop too. I tell that story to remind you that school personnel have emotions and are a summation of their own personal experiences, strengths and shortcomings.  By and large, teachers teach because they love children and want to see them succeed. At the same time, being a parent of one, two or eight children can be overwhelming. Imagine being the authority figure for a class of twenty-five. That too, is a lot of pressure and is extremely overwhelming.  Don’t view school personnel as the enemy. Rather, strive to have them understand your child by lending them your unique perspective as you are the expert of your child. Which leads me to #2.

    2. You ARE absolutely the expert of your child.

    Never underestimate your power as a parent.  Parent-teacher conferences, child study team meetings and academic/behavioral intervention meetings are nerve-wracking.  Many parents feel uncomfortable speaking up for their children in meetings at school. Some parents even feel as if they are being scrutinized or criticized in meetings and sometimes they are being judged.  We agreed that school personnel are humans and sometimes humans who don’t yet have all of the information, judge. You know your child’s birth story, you can attest to their journey of meeting developmental milestones and you are with them when they are working independently at home to complete homework assignments.  These are the questions that school psychologists and learning specialists explore when determining how a child learns and/or processes information. This vital information can only come from a parent, guardian or another adult who regularly interacts with the child outside of school. See, you ARE the expert of your child.  

    3. Your being the expert of your child does not mean that the teacher is not the expert of teaching.  

    While I want to send you into the next meeting feeling confident and empowered, let’s also meet with the understanding that teaching is a profession.  Boards of Directors monitor corporations, hospital administrators oversee doctors and school administrators supervise teachers. Going into a meeting claiming that your child isn’t learning because the teacher can’t teach is counterproductive and disrespectful. At the same time, each and every teacher is not a master teacher.  Nevertheless, we likely wouldn’t be bold enough to put down one of our doctors. The same rules should apply to the professional educators who sacrifice time, money and much more to partner with our families to ensure that our children are not only good students but also productive citizens.

    With all of that said, the key is to realize that, parent included, there are a team of experts seated at the table when a meeting is called to discuss a student’s progress.  Attempt to develop a mutually respectful working relationship with your fellow team members on behalf of your child.

    4. Teaching and learning aren’t always an exact science.

    My educational background is in educational psychology which is the science of how people learn and retain information in combination with the study of how to implement teaching and behavior modification strategies in order to foster student success.  A mouthful, right? To help exceptional learners, teachers partner with child study team members largely comprised of learning specialists, psychologists and social workers.  In order words, sometimes there’s no straight answer to the question of why is my child struggling in school. There definitely is an answer, but like most things in life finding the answer may take us on a journey.  My advice is to plan for a long-term, systematic approach instead of expecting a quick-fix.

    5. Keep a detailed journal.

    All of the other experts at the table will come equipped with notes, data or other pertinent information related to the progress of the student.  In the case of behavioral challenges, the child study team will probably request the teacher take note of the type of behavior and its frequency. You don’t need to have a binder full of information.  You need to have neither a high school diploma nor college degree to jot down some notes and talking points to cover in the meeting. No pressure. The idea is that we all forget over time and when it comes to something like identifying academic challenges we must look at patterns.  So, keeping a detailed journal, even if on sticky notes, will prove to be helpful in developing a solid plan to get your child back on track.

    6. Educate yourself about the issue.  

    Do you speak Greek?  Me either. Imagine being in a room of people at a restaurant who only speak greek. You have a severe food allergy You’re incapable of telling the wait staff that you have a deadly allergy.  Putting myself in that scenario would be extremely uncomfortable for me. At a minimum, I would have to have google translate ready to go on my phone and my EpiPen in my purse. I wouldn’t expect to hold a full conversation, but I’m not going to set myself up for a disaster either.  

    As the expert of your child, take just a few moments to become familiar with some of the jargon you might hear in a parent-teacher meeting so that you don’t feel like everyone else in the room, but you,  is able to participate in the conversation.

    In my numerous conversations with parents about advocating for their children, there lies one common theme amongst the parents of private, public and charter school children.  Parents tend to distrust their own judgment and are likely to be more defensive if they feel powerless. When we educate ourselves, we empower ourselves.

    7. Ask lots of questions.  

    Once you’ve educated yourself about the issues your child may be experiencing, ask as many questions as needed until you feel like your concerns have been addressed.

    8. Know your rights.

    You have rights as a parent.  Your child has rights too. If your child falls into what is called a protected class, such as a learner with special needs, then there are additional laws in place to assure that they receive a free and appropriate education in the least restrictive environment possible.  

     

    9. Don’t be afraid to say no.  

    As your child’s biggest advocate, it is okay to go against the flow and trust our well-informed gut.  Sometimes, we just know that a decision that we’re being asked to make is the wrong decision. It is okay to insist that your support team work with you to come up with a more suitable solution.  However, that means that you may have to stand on a firm “no, that will not work for me.”

    10. Be the glue.

    My daughter had two back-to-back concussions earlier this year.   Although I’m well versed in the effects of traumatic brain injuries in children, I was ill prepared to immediately jump into action when my daughter went from memorizing three-page speeches to not being able to remember one line of text from one day to the next.  I had to have several serious talks with myself to not allow my emotions to get the best of me. It took six months, her pediatrician, a team of neurologists and physical therapists, daily conversations with the school principal and my reading everything I could get my hands on regarding multiple concussions in teens for me to be able to advocate on her behalf when one of her teachers insisted that her concussions should have no bearing on how she was being graded. I had to be the vessel to keep all parties on the same page. Otherwise,  the school would be doing one thing, the doctors would be recommending another and my daughter would have been caught in the middle.

    If you want to minimize things “falling through the cracks”, you must be the glue.

     

    As parents, we have to advocate for our children.  We know them best and we want what’s best for them.  Instead of finding yourself in a position where you’re going toe-to-toe with the teacher and principal, I encourage you to leverage school personnel as your team of fellow advocates that will help your child win.  The first step toward student success getting all stakeholders on the same page. And, if all parties aren’t on the same page, we must equip ourselves to with the education and tools to relentlessly work toward our end goal of providing our children with the best education possible.

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  • I Promise School Promises New Future for Akron

    Remember July? It seems so long ago. Well, something really big happened last month just in time for some great back-to-school news! On July 30th, LeBron James’ I Promise School opened in his hometown of Akron, Ohio to 240 students for the first time ever. For a long time, the school started out as an unattainable dream. When he was younger, LeBron missed 83 days of 4th grade. His mother, Gloria, struggled to find a steady job for her and young LeBron, which denied him the security and stability he needed to receive as a growing child. He told the Los Angeles Times that he never understood the importance of education and how it can help break already existing poverty cycles. James wants the I Promise School to guarantee resources and opportunities for the students that he didn’t have growing up. He hopes that his school will provide the kids of Akron a bright and successful future.  

     

    HOW THE I PROMISE SCHOOL WAS STARTED

    The staff of the LeBron James Family Foundation had a brainstorming session where James and executive director Michele Campbell discussed how to better involve their foundation in the community in Akron. Campbell suggested that opening a school could work, but James wondered why that wasn’t already happening. Campbell reminded him that the foundation didn’t have enough resources to start that big of a project, however, James told her to start it anyway. James told CNN “We want every kid to walk through this school to be inspired, to come away with something”.

     

    WHAT I PROMISE IS

     

    I Promise is a public school in Akron, Ohio for grades K-12. James chose it to be public rather than a charter or private because he believes that improving the public schools in inner-city Akron will help the city as a whole grow and develop. I Promise has an extended school day that goes from 9 to 5 every day, and includes an extended school year with a summer program. The extended hours ensure that the students are getting the best education they can, while also making sure that they have a safe place to play and learn during the typical “after school hours”.

     

    WHO IS ELIGIBLE TO ATTEND I PROMISE

     

    I Promise School’s first ever students are 240 randomly selected 3rd and 4th graders who are deemed at risk by the Akron board of education. On average, these kids are two reading levels below their peers. With I Promise’s unconventional hours of operation, they are giving this at-risk-youth a chance to advance and succeed with their academics. By 2022, James says that the school will be able to fully educate K-8th graders.

     

    HOW I PROMISE IS GETTING ITS FUNDING

     

    Akron District Treasurer Ryan Pendleton spoke to the Akron Beacon Journal about the funds I Promise is getting. This year, the Akron Public School system, with the LeBron James Family Foundation, is spending $2.9 million of their general fund on I Promise. Come 5 years, it is expected that $8.1 million will be invested from the school district into I Promise. And that’s exactly how Akron sees it. Pendleton suggests that I Promise will be a long-term investment for the city of Akron and its students. The LeBron James Family Foundation will also be meeting the needs for the programs and activities that the school offers to its students.

     

    WHAT I PROMISE OFFERS

     

    The school is STEM (science, technology, engineering, and mathematics) based, and with the partnership of James and the University of Akron, will guarantee all graduating seniors a full ride to the institution (Time Money). That’s huge!!! I don’t think this is getting the attention it deserves. This is free tuition to a public university with lots of opportunities. College is already so expensive as it is, and not everyone is fortunate enough to afford it, but with this guarantee, the I Promise students will be getting a higher education, no ifs, ands, or buts.

     

    The school also provides free healthy breakfasts, lunches, and snacks to its students. James understands that healthy foods are more expensive and not as accessible in low-income areas. The school also offers free bicycles and helmets for all students. When James, was young, he used to ride his bike to get out of the not so safe areas of Akron. He wanted each of his students to have the same protection that he felt with his bike. Counseling services are provided on campus which will help the students learn different coping skills (specifically with trauma), and career services and GED classes for the parents. Principal Brandi Davis says: “We are going to be that groundbreaking school that will be a nationally recognized model for urban and public school excellence, […] We are letting people know that it is about true wraparound support. True family integration, true compassion.”

     

    I Promise seems like it will be a great addition to the city of Akron and will ensure that its students are prepared academically to take on the world. Congratulations, King James. You have taken an unattainable dream and turned it into a life-changing reality. I promise that your school will be everything you’ve dreamed it would be.

     

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